New Year = New Me! This year lets start working on one resolution by becoming more self-confident with ourselves! Self-confidence is defined as a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment. It’s important to your well being that you have a healthy level of self-confidence which can help you become more successful in life.
There have definitely been days where I feel blah and just immediately have negative thoughts when I wake up. Days where I don’t believe in myself, that something can do a task better than me and that I can’t do things as well as other people can. But I try to not think like that all the time. You will always have these kinds of bad days in your life, but they don’t all have to be that way! I’ve learned that it’s super important to work on your self-confidence as a means of physical, mental, and emotional health.
The most important part of having self-confidence is believing in yourself. When you believe in yourself amazing things can happen! You’ll be more willing to try new things, like going to a class you’ve always wanted to try, going to a movie or out to a meal by yourself, give a presentation in front of a large crowd, and even have the confidence to stand up for what is right for yourself and others around you. The key is to put yourself out there.
For some, confidence comes easily. Others, however, struggle with understanding how to gain self-confidence. Fortunately, there are things you can do to boost your self-confidence. Whether you lack confidence in one specific area or you struggle to feel confident about anything, these tips can help.
DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
In this age of social media and Instagram, it’s very easy to compare yourself to how others are living. You see them wearing the newest clothing and traveling to the coolest places and can’t help but feel put down that you aren’t doing the same thing. The more you compare yourself to others, the more envy you will feel. And the more envy you experience day-to-day, the worse you are going to feel about yourself. It’s a vicious cycle, but you can break yourself free of it.
Pay attention to times when you compare your wealth, possessions, skills, achievements, and attributes to others. Thinking that other people are better or have more will erode your confidence in yourself. What you can do is take a step back and unfollow those accounts that make you feel that way. Free yourself from the judgment game and do what you need to do to protect the confidence that you have in yourself
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. For better or worse, you are stuck with yourself. Every night, you will go to bed with yourself, and you will wake up with yourself each morning. Do you not owe it to yourself to love yourself? Learning how to gain self-confidence is about valuing yourself as a person the way you’d value a cherished friend or romantic partner. You need to make self-care a priority. When you feel your best physically, you’ll naturally feel more confident about yourself.
Talking to yourself with kindness is also a huge step in building up confidence. Speaking to yourself harshly when you make a mistake or experience a setback, won’t motivate you to do better. In fact, doing so will have the opposite effect on your self-esteem. Rather than beat yourself up or call yourself names, try speaking to yourself as you’d talk to a trusted friend. Cut yourself some slack, laugh at yourself, and remind yourself that no one is perfect.
FACE YOUR FEARS
Have you ever put a task off for a long time because you weren’t 100% confident that you could do it? And then you finish that task and say “I don’t know why that took me so long to do, it was easy”! Sometimes people put off things because they aren’t confident in their ability to do it but seldom the best way to gain self-confidence is by doing that task.
I try to live by this one quote that I saw in a Hilary Duff movie called A Cinderella story. “Don’t let the fear of striking out, keep you from playing the game”. I know this is a big sports quote but it resonated more with me through a girly movie. To me, the quote means that just because you’re scared you’re going to mess up or do something wrong, shouldn’t stop you from doing it. Try it anyway. Even in you do mess up, practice until you aren’t scared of doing it anymore. If you have a big speech coming up, practice out loud in front of a mirror or your friends so that you’ll be more confident when the time comes to giving the speech.